Hi sister,

And welcome back to this sacred space where every Friday we will be providing you with valuable content, and you don't know how happy I am to have you here and that you can access this valuable information.

This week I bring you a topic that has a lot of value for me and that even makes me feel a little vulnerable.

The other day I was reminiscing about my early twenties and the time I started hearing about female empowerment and the importance of women's sexual assertion. There was talk of sexual freedom, but this freedom seemed more like imitating the behavior of others, which ended up working against most women.

I heard stories of women who, in their attempt to reclaim their sexuality, ended up sleeping with anyone, faking orgasms, or having a short, empty, and rushed orgasm. And I was one of them. In that quest to reclaim my sexuality, I ended up using my body and the bodies of others, closing my heart so that no one could hurt me in the process of this promiscuity.

I'm telling you this because at that time, what I was taught was that my claim to the power of sexuality had to do with a more pornographic approach to sex. Until I realized that it didn't really fulfill me. And that's how I discovered my first vibrator. At the time, it seemed like the perfect solution. Since the vibrator wasn't a person, I didn't have to deal with that feeling of using or being used, with the risks, and with the fear of intimacy that I used to have back then.

The truth is that the vibrator was the best option to avoid all that.

And little by little I began to realize how I needed more and more intensity. There was a certain desperation to reach orgasm, and it had already started to become an addiction. I would grab my vibrator two or three times a day, and above all, I couldn't fall asleep without having masturbated.

The ease and speed with which I could reach orgasm with the vibrator made me dependent on it.

The next time I connected with someone after several months of using a vibrator, I noticed how my desperation manifested in wanting the man I was with to become a vibrating machine. I think he felt so pressured by my exasperation that he ended up having a terrible time, his tongue cramping and in a bad mood because he hadn't enjoyed it at all, trying to go as fast as I demanded. And at the end of the day, I hadn't had the orgasm I was so desperately seeking. The disconnection from my body, plus the desperation for orgasm and the fact that the only thing that mattered was reaching orgasm, made the experience awful for both of us.

That experience made me reflect on the true meaning of intimacy and pleasure. I realized that I didn't want my sexual experiences to be rushed, like wanting to get something done right away, and that this was mostly what I constantly complained about with the men I connected with.

Since then, as you know, I've explored more conscious and sacred forms of self-pleasure and intimate connection, and my orgasmic potential has grown so much that I can now enjoy sexuality with or without orgasms…and by shifting the focus away from orgasms, I started having them for up to 20 minutes!!

I'm telling you this story to help us understand why we don't promote the use of vibrators at Yoni Samsara.

So let's delve into the six reasons why you should ditch your vibrator

1. It limits your orgasmic potential

As we already said, the use of a vibrator is generally used as an immediate pleasure and dopamine release.

Let's just say vibrators are like microwaved fast food; and you, my queen, deserve the five-star restaurant with the most exquisite food in existence.

Why do I say that a vibrator is like fast food? Because we generally use it in a very mechanical way: we take it out of the drawer, position it directly on the clitoris, activate it until we reach a quick, empty orgasm, and then we fall asleep. This is the experience of many women.

What happens when you do that continuously? Your body gets used to small, quick satisfactions that last very little time and leave you feeling bad afterward, like a McDonald's hamburger.

Furthermore, when you use a vibrator and only focus on your clitoris, you are neglecting all the other parts of your body that can provide incredible orgasms and an unimaginable amount of pleasure.
True female sexual empowerment comes from discovering yourself and opening yourself up to connect with all the orgasmic potential your body can offer you.

I invite you, the next time you decide to have a moment of connection with yourself and masturbate, to go slower. Take the time to caress your whole body, to have a moment of real connection with yourself, instead of just focusing on reaching that quick orgasm so you can go to sleep.

Stay tuned to this blog because in the coming weeks I will be telling you about various ways and rituals that you can implement in your life for your self-pleasure practices.

2. Desensitization

Closely related to what we just discussed is what I shared at the beginning of this article: the fact that vibration desensitizes the skin and nerve endings. This, instead of giving you more pleasure, actually gives you less and less each time. Furthermore, since most vibrators focus only on the clitoris or the first part of the vagina, you never stimulate all the other sensitive parts of your body, such as your breasts, nipples, cervix, vulva, and all the other erogenous zones.

Intense and repetitive vibration can cause nerve endings to become less sensitive over time. This means you'll need increasingly stronger stimulation to reach the same level of pleasure, which can lead to a vicious cycle of dissatisfaction and frustration.

3. It ruins your relationship

The constant use of vibrators , whether alone or with a partner, can lead to complications in relationships and cause friction and tension with sexual partners. Let's explore why.

Let's assume—and I know this isn't the case for all women, but it is for most—that the fact you're using a vibrator so frequently means you don't know your body intimately. You're constantly resorting to vibrators because you probably haven't discovered the sacred art of self-pleasure rituals and, therefore, haven't fully explored your body.

If you don't know your own body, how can someone else possibly know it and how to touch it if you don't even know how? Furthermore, as I mentioned at the beginning, this creates impossible expectations for our sexual partners, because no tongue and no penis can reach that level of vibration intensity. Therefore, if you only become accustomed to achieving orgasm through that intensity, it will be very difficult for a sexual partner to satisfy you.

The pressure to achieve the same level of stimulation as a vibrator can create stress and anxiety for your partner, negatively impacting intimacy and emotional connection. It's crucial to remember that sex is an experience that goes beyond orgasm, and emotional and physical connection with your partner or yourself, along with being present in the moment, is essential for a healthy and satisfying sex life.

4. You lose the benefits of orgasm

In one of the previous articles, we talked at length about the BENEFITS OF ORGASM (if you missed it, click on the title to see that post). There, I explained all the chemicals and hormones released during orgasm, and not just the orgasm itself, but the entire journey leading up to it. With vibrators , you miss out on all the foreplay and foreplay, the touches, the gentleness, and the arousal. Let's be honest, you don't need to be really aroused to have a clitoral orgasm with a vibrator, right? And so you miss out on all those chemicals released during the build-up of arousal.

The arousal process is crucial for a complete and satisfying sexual experience. During this time, your body produces hormones like oxytocin and serotonin, which promote feelings of happiness, connection, and well-being. By skipping this process with the use of vibrators , you deprive yourself of these emotional and physical benefits.

5. Inappropriate materials for your yoni

The materials used in vibrators you typically find in stores are not safe for your intimate health. Your yoni is extremely delicate, and its pH balance is very fragile. That's why not just any toy should enter your sacred temple. Your yoni deserves the best, and you deserve the best.

Many vibrators are made of plastics and other synthetic materials that can release harmful chemicals, such as phthalates and BPA. These toxins can disrupt the pH balance of your vagina, leading to irritation, infections, and other long-term health problems. With a little research, you can find several studies online indicating that the materials used in sex toys can contain toxins that have a significant impact on your long-term intimate health.

6. Your self-pleasure practice is your gateway to connecting with the divine

When you understand that your sexuality and your relationship with your body are a direct connection to the divine—whether God, the universe, the great spirit, or whatever you prefer to call it—you begin to see your self-pleasure practice in a completely new light. This sacred moment is an opportunity to honor and celebrate your deepest self.

Whether you choose to do it once a day, once a week, or once a month, the important thing is that you do it with the intention of exploring and acknowledging the sacred potential of this act. By taking this time for yourself, you allow yourself to direct your sexual and creative energy toward the manifestation of your deepest and most authentic desires.

When you understand this, you won't want your self-pleasure practice to last only a few minutes. You'll want to extend it as much as possible to truly enjoy and benefit from this sacred moment. You'll learn that connecting with your body and this act of self-pleasure can be one of the deepest forms of meditation and connection with your higher self that exists.

So what now?

Here I want to offer you alternatives worthy of the goddess you are. Our pleasure wands are made with 100% natural materials, handcrafted. Each one is a unique work of art, hand-carved and designed to bring you back home, to restore sensitivity to your sacred temple, and to expand your orgasmic potential, allowing you to experience orgasms lasting minutes or even hours.

If you're just starting out on your journey and want to put down your vibrator and be inspired by the art of self-pleasure, there's no better companion than our ROSE QUARTZ STRAIGHT ROD.

The straight rod is ideal for reawakening sensations within the vagina, allowing you to massage and reactivate tissue that may have been damaged by vibrator use. It's perfect for vaginal relaxation exercises and for activating the pelvic floor.

Furthermore, rose quartz is an expander of self-love, sensuality, and femininity, making it the ideal companion to begin providing ourselves with love in a different, deeper, more sacred, and ritualistic way.

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Until next Friday, sister, thank you for being here!