Hello beautiful,

We take advantage of the arrival of summer, this wonderful season of sun, openness and sociability to touch on a delicate subject, but one of vital importance for our well-being, expression and relationships.

Before revealing this week's topic, as always, I invite you to prepare your favorite drink and make sure you have this undisturbed space where we can delve without distractions into this wonderful world of…

Our libido .

(I also want to remind you that as a loyal reader of this blog, you'll get a special discount on the product of the week at the end of the article)

How many times have you felt like something is broken inside you because you didn't feel like it? Have you felt less of a woman because you couldn't access your sensuality and sexuality?

I know how it feels; I've been there too. I know it can be completely isolating, frustrating, and full of disconnection, affecting your intimate relationships in a destabilizing way.

It's incredible how our libido , and our relationship with our body and sexuality, have a domino effect on our lives.

Because at the end of the day, if you don't feel good about yourself, your intimacy with your partner is affected, your mood and harmony as a couple are compromised, not to mention how, if there are children involved, your well-being influences the way you behave and raise your children.

Therefore, I'm here to share some important tips on how to improve your sexual health so you can have the best relationship with yourself, which will be reflected in improving ALL the relationships around you.

First of all, you need to understand that low libido is not the CAUSE of your problems.

Your libido is the CONSEQUENCE. It's merely a symptom, a compass, an indicator that something is very wrong in your world.

Your nature as a woman is to be seductive, feminine, sensual, and sexual. Your vulnerability, gentleness, need for communication and expression are indicators of a healthy, flourishing, and inspiring femininity for you and those around you.

Anything that distances you from those characteristics is an indicator that something in your life is not aligned with your nature and your highest expression as a woman.

Now, the most important thing is not to let it overwhelm you, but to accept those signals from your body as a compass to guide your attention.

Meanwhile, let's look at 5 causes that may be affecting your libido.

1. CONTRACEPTIVES

Hormonal contraceptives, such as pills, patches, and hormonal IUDs, can have varying effects on female libido . These methods work by altering the body's natural hormone levels, primarily by increasing estrogen and progestin levels to prevent ovulation. For some women, these hormonal changes can lead to a decreased libido , possibly because they suppress testosterone, which is key to sexual desire.

Although many scientific studies say otherwise and claim that most women do not experience an impact on their sex drive from contraceptives, the reality is that any hormonal regulator affects you, as it completely changes your body's natural system.

Most women who embark on a conscious healing journey report feeling an incredible shift after discontinuing birth control. For many, it's as if a cloud lifts from their minds, giving them greater clarity, control over their emotions, and a joy and vitality they haven't felt since starting birth control. And of course, all of this greatly influences how we experience our sexuality and our relationships.

2. MINDSET

Although it may seem a bit cliché, it's incredible how our beliefs and thoughts influence our libido . Once again, women are beings of the earth, made of the same substance as nature, following its rhythms and cycles. When we impose a "good" or "bad," "right" or "wrong" on those rhythms and cycles, we are compromising our well-being.

In modern society, which constantly urges us to do more, to push ourselves beyond our physical limits, and to always be busy, it is imperative that women begin to deeply examine what we believe about this system. The worst part is that this system and culture are so deeply ingrained in us that we end up believing that taking a break is bad, that we should never stop, because that would mean we are failures or not good enough.

This pain of never feeling like we are or do enough stems primarily from the quality of our thoughts. We've been taught to measure our worth based on our productivity, not our authenticity or well-being. This belief can erode our connection with ourselves and our sexuality.

Our limiting beliefs, such as thinking we must always be available and productive, affect our ability to relax and enjoy pleasure. When we feel we must always be on the go, we don't leave room to listen to our bodies and understand their needs. This can lead to a disconnection from our libido , as stress and self-imposed pressure pull us away from our natural rhythm.

To counteract this, it's essential that we begin to question these beliefs. We need to remember that our value lies not in how much we do, but in who we are. It's vital to allow ourselves to rest and reconnect with our bodies, without feeling guilty about it. When we accept our natural rhythms and cycles, we begin to see that rest is not a luxury, but a fundamental necessity for our well-being.

By working on changing our beliefs and thoughts, we open the door to a healthier relationship with our libido . Accepting that it's normal to have ups and downs, and that these don't define us, frees us to experience our sexuality in a fuller and more satisfying way. It's time to prioritize our well-being and reconnect with our feminine essence, accepting that we are enough just as we are.

3. SPONTANEOUS DESIRE VERSUS RECEPTIVE DESIRE

Sexual desire can manifest in different ways, and understanding the difference between spontaneous and receptive desire is key to a healthy and satisfying sex life. Spontaneous desire is that which arises seemingly out of nowhere, like a sudden impulse that makes you want intimacy without any prior stimulation. It's like a spark that ignites the fire of passion. This type of desire is most commonly associated with the early stages of a relationship, when everything is new and exciting. However, it's important to remember that not everyone experiences spontaneous desire in the same way, and that's perfectly normal.

On the other hand, receptive desire is the kind that needs a little more time and stimulation to awaken. It's no less valid or less intense; it simply follows a different rhythm. In many women, sexual desire is triggered in response to physical or emotional stimulation. This can include caresses, kisses, or even an intimate conversation that awakens feelings of closeness and connection. Receptive desire can be just as satisfying and passionate, but it requires a more mindful and patient approach. Understanding and accepting this form of desire can reduce pressure and anxiety in intimacy, allowing both partners to feel more comfortable and connected.

If you're a woman who experiences desire in a receptive way, you should become very aware of what awakens you and what you need. Because once again, our ideas, beliefs, and thoughts about how things should be incredibly influence how we experience our sexuality.

Recognizing and accepting these differences can help you gain a better understanding of your own sexuality and that of your partner. There is no "right" way to experience desire, and both types are perfectly normal and healthy. By tuning into your own rhythm and needs, you can enrich your relationships and enjoy a fuller, more satisfying sex life. The key lies in open and honest communication with your partner, as well as accepting that sexual desire can fluctuate and change over time. By embracing these differences, you can create a more respectful and loving intimate space where you both feel valued and understood.

4. GUILT AND SHAME

I will never tire of saying that the worst enemies of sexuality are guilt and shame. These emotions are among the lowest vibrations a human being can experience and are the foundation of everything that has been used to control, repress, and limit us. Women, in particular, experience guilt and shame as sexual beings, as we express our sensuality, and these emotions are deeply connected to feelings of insecurity and danger.

For these reasons, the inner work a woman must do to open herself to desire, pleasure, and the free expression of her being and nature is extremely intense, profound, and, above all, vitally important. Without the proper support to delve deep into your subconscious and change those patterns that generate guilt and shame, it will be very difficult to enjoy your sensuality and sexuality. As a result, your body may react with a low libido to protect you from those low emotions and vibrations.

At Yoni Samsara and in all of Carol Arnelas' programs, we focus on working with crystals like obsidian, which guide us toward the shadows of our being, bringing to the surface all those beliefs and thoughts that obstruct our path to liberated sexuality. If you would like to be accompanied on this path of liberation, gaining a deeper understanding of your subconscious and freeing yourself from all these beliefs and emotions held in your womb so that you can finally access your full sensual and sexual potential, there is no better place than our Sensual Alchemy retreat. This retreat will take place from July 11th to 16th in Toledo (one hour from Madrid, Spain). These spaces are ideal for awakening your libido , as we work on each of the points we share here, so that when you return to your routine, you will have practical tools for communication as a couple, conscious touch, knowledge of your body and what you like, and, above all, cleansing and reprogramming of your womb so that you can free yourself from everything that is in your subconscious.

If you'd like to learn more, you can schedule a free call with someone from Carol Arnelas' team to get all the details by filling out this form. If you'd like to be involved, CLICK HERE!

5. IGNORANCE AND MISINFORMATION

Ignorance and misinformation are two factors that go hand in hand and affect all aspects of our lives, especially our sexuality and relationships. Many of us don't fully understand how our bodies work or what they truly need to be healthy and balanced. A lack of knowledge about effective communication and understanding of the differences not only between men and women, but also between individuals, is a major obstacle. Each person has a unique language for feeling loved, desired, and sensually and erotically aroused. Without this understanding, it's difficult to connect deeply with ourselves and others.

Unfortunately, our understanding of how to relate to ourselves and others is so limited that, in most cases, we misinterpret situations, pushing us away from, rather than bringing us closer to, the people we love. This lack of understanding can lead to misunderstandings and conflicts that erode intimacy and connection in our relationships. Without a solid foundation of communication and mutual understanding, it's easy to fall into behavioral patterns that emotionally distance us from our partners.

Furthermore, the state of our romantic, family, and friendship relationships has a tremendous impact on our lives and libido . Healthy, balanced relationships provide us with a sense of security and emotional support, which are fundamental for a fulfilling sex life. On the other hand, conflicts and tensions in these relationships can generate stress and anxiety, negatively affecting our sexual desire. The quality of our interactions with loved ones directly influences how we feel about ourselves and, consequently, our libido .

The consequences of this ignorance and misinformation are devastating for our intimacy and connection, and therefore, for our libido . A lack of emotional connection and mutual misunderstanding kill sexual desire. To maintain a healthy and satisfying sex life, it is essential to educate ourselves about our bodies, minds, and emotions. Learning to communicate openly and honestly with our partners, and understanding their needs and desires, is crucial for cultivating an intimate and deeply connected relationship. By doing so, we not only improve our sex life, but also the quality of our relationships in general.

SO WHAT CAN I DO TO INCREASE MY LIBIDO?

While ideally you would work on each of these points and begin with small daily practices to reactivate your connection with your body and cleanse your womb of all the information, beliefs, and emotions that prevent you from being free in your sexual and sensual expression, we know this is a process that can take months or even years. In fact, as we always say, this is a one-way street: once you start, there's no going back. And although we'd love to offer you a magic pill to heal all of this instantly, unfortunately, that doesn't exist.

What does exist and can help you awaken that fire is blue lotus tea. It's the closest thing to a magic pill we have.

The blue lotus, known since ancient times in Egyptian and Asian medicine, is now considered one of the best plants for awakening sexual desire and activating our ability to have lucid dreams, as it contains substances like apomorphine and nuciferin. Apomorphine is a substance that activates dopamine, making us feel happy and euphoric, and also helps control muscles, making it useful for people with Parkinson's disease or erectile dysfunction. Nuciferin, for its part, is similar to antipsychotic medications and helps us relax and reduce tension.

Traditionally, the blue lotus flower has been used for both recreational and medicinal purposes. It improves sleep quality, reduces anxiety, and increases libido. Although modern studies haven't definitively confirmed its aphrodisiac properties, many people use it to enhance their sex lives, thanks to its nuciferin content. It also contains antioxidants like flavonoids and quercetin, which are beneficial for overall health.

Blue lotus is also great for relaxing and enjoying moments of well-being, such as during meditation, yoga, or massage, because it has narcotic and euphoric effects. If you take it before bed, it can help you have incredibly vivid dreams and mystical experiences. Whether in the form of tea, tinctures, or extracts, blue lotus is a highly versatile tool for improving your physical and emotional well-being.

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Let us know what it awakened in you, or any questions or comments you may have; it would be an honor for us to read them.

We wish you all the pleasure, joy, and expansion, and we'll see you in the next article.

With love,

The Yoni Samsara team